David Walsh | Posted on September 6, 2013

Merriam-Webster defines ‘engaged’ as:

1. Involved in activity: occupied, busy
2. Pledged to be married: betrothed
3. Greatly interested: committed
4. Involved especially in a hostile encounter
5. Partly embedded in a wall (an engaged column)
6. Being in gear: meshed

I am engaged. I refer to the above definition and engage 2 and 3 particularly, and also 1 and 6, but also occasionally 4.

If you happened to have read an earlier post you will be aware that I was in the US when my younger daughter had an accident. I glossed over my purpose for travelling. Now, with Grace recovering, I think I can reveal that (and I may have already given the game away) I was in the US to propose to Kirsha. Kirsha is American, and she gave up a great deal to move to Tasmania to be with me. So it seemed fair to take her home while I got down on the proverbial bended knee. As the context may also have implied, she said yes. Yay!

The deed was done in New York, where Kirsha has lots of friends. I also, to her satisfying stupefaction, secretly imported a few from elsewhere. We had a celebratory dinner afterwards. Several of Kirsha's best friends collaborated on the dinner, the highlight of which was a table crafted from blocks of ice. This proved to be apropos; New York was in the midst of a heat wave.

A few weeks before, while planning our somewhat one-sided rendezvous, I was preparing a quasi-contract for our mooted marriage on this very iPad in the middle of the night when Kirsha awoke, a rare event indeed, and asked me what I was writing. As a diversion I started writing a poem, and it turned out better than I had any right to expect, given its improbable genesis. I later got local musical polymath Dean Stevenson to turn it into a song. Listen here.


Most nights I listen to the soft susurrus
As you draw in and process atmosphere
Making it your own and owning me
As I'm surrounded by your exhale.

I breathe for you and your odour
More rich by the nighttime heat
The night chill comforts me
But I sneak some warmth to enhance your ripeness
And then pick you and prick you
Inflate your balloon with my sticky air

I don't see you except as my mind sees you
I don't need to see you
I am invigorated by the darkness
And the darkness within me
I feel you like hot plastic or cold comfort
I feel you and though I am spent
Another deposit wells within me
And burdens me with uncertainty

Sometimes I make a strategic withdrawal
For fear of taking too much
But you need my lust for love and ego
And you tell me so
And I know it to be so
But doubt lingers a little
Not often at all

Sometimes, not often (at all)
I awake, not knowing I slept
And I feel you caressing
My back and kissing
Just as you were
Before sleep overcame me
And made me a victim
Of your relentless
Passion and redeeming

And I am not whole
But I am all I need be
And you are not all
But you are all that I need


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shane eastwood | September 6, 2013 at 05:16 pm


J-B | September 6, 2013 at 05:21 pm

I'm surprised you have not completed the full suite of definitions as a result of 4 ending up with 5.

Marg Hansen | September 6, 2013 at 06:19 pm

Thats love in all its intensity. Congrats forever.

Adonis Storr | October 27, 2013 at 12:55 pm

Lovely words David, i had the feeling of an open window on a full Moon's night, curtain swept, awaking.. Fantastic imagery woven onto a canvas of relationship's dialogue, epic yet soft, full of humility.

Natasha | September 6, 2013 at 09:02 pm

Hip hop hooray for love!

Julie Bonnette | September 6, 2013 at 09:54 pm

Uncle Lloyd would be so happy.

Terry-jean Carr | October 13, 2013 at 10:11 pm

I like the poem

MM | September 8, 2013 at 03:52 pm

Everyone needs love. Congratulations.

Maggie | September 8, 2013 at 07:53 pm

Aint love grand? Wouldn't be dead for quids! Thanyou for sharing your strange and cellubrious passion!

Judi | September 6, 2013 at 10:18 pm

Even though you write so well Walshy....a picture does paint a thousand words. So happy for you both...

Sheila | September 9, 2013 at 09:38 am

How romantic very beautiful all the best for many many years of love and happiness together. I'm coming up for 48 years loving my man and still going strong. Would have been lovely to have a love song sung to me though, cherish this Kirsha so lovely.

Alia Iida | October 1, 2013 at 09:10 am

Congrats Kirsha! Glad to see you happy. Just recently got in touch with Jing too...

Anne | September 6, 2013 at 10:15 pm

As I drove home to Hobart from Launceston this morning, I saw MONA in the distance from the Brooker Hwy and suddenly remembered the first time I visited your beautiful magical edifice and thought how wonderful a gift it is to Hobart and Tasmania and then I saw this exciting post on fb tonight . So thank you David Walsh . Wishing you long lives, much joy and every happiness to you and your fiance.

Kris Carr | September 6, 2013 at 06:31 pm

Congratulations from your neighbours at Number 9. We are yet to met but wish you the very best!

carolynaudet | September 6, 2013 at 11:03 pm

How beautiful.....its for you

heidi ruckriegel | September 6, 2013 at 08:52 pm

Go for it!
P.S. Guess you'll be changing the parking sign at Mona then?

Julie Shaw | September 6, 2013 at 07:36 pm

Thanks so much David for sharing so much with fellow Republicans in Melbourne, all Australians and the entire world - now your loving dedication to Kirsha also - inspirational on so many levels! Best wishes to you both for a wonderful life together, Julie

Sindi O'Hara | September 6, 2013 at 07:01 pm

Oh joy, oh bliss, oh rapture! The best thing I ever did was marrying my true love.

Tilley | September 6, 2013 at 07:05 pm

"And I am not whole But I am all I need be And you are not all But you are all that I need" This took my breath away. Congratulations David! and gosh, isn't Dean a magician with music.

Sophia Warren | September 6, 2013 at 06:38 pm


chris | September 6, 2013 at 06:51 pm

The others have said it all, so just CONGRATS from a girl in Melbourne

Diane Caney | September 6, 2013 at 06:27 pm

Congratulations to you, David and Kirsha xx I was at MONA yesterday and smiled at your car parks which I'd never noticed before. Will they be upgraded now to 'God' and 'Goddess'? Can't wait for MONA FOMA - hopefully it will be an amazing engagement gift to, and celebration for, both of you as well as your chosen city :)

Dan Garlick | September 6, 2013 at 06:19 pm

Happiness to you both. Congratulations D&K from another D&K.

Nicholas Forrest | September 6, 2013 at 05:59 pm

Congratulations David. Wishing you both joy and happiness!!

Robyn | September 6, 2013 at 06:11 pm

Huge congratulations David and Kirsha, wishing you both much joy and happiness, love, fulfillment and creativity - and may you never lose that spark. xx Robyn Lewis (Russell)

Amanda | September 6, 2013 at 05:55 pm

Wishing you both huge amounts of joy!

dorins2013 | September 6, 2013 at 05:29 pm

Thanks for sharing the love David. All the very best to you and K. Any tidbit of joy is most welcome given what we'll awaken to on Sunday morning.....

aidy | September 6, 2013 at 05:30 pm

congrats from me, .... a lass from Lindisfarne who is unknown to either of you, but one who nevertheless wishes you much togetherness & warmth. x

Dave | September 6, 2013 at 05:32 pm

Congratulations guys, be happy.

Marg Byrne | September 6, 2013 at 05:43 pm

How wonderful! Great poem & beautiful photo. Wish you both much happiness

SR | September 6, 2013 at 05:52 pm

What a lovely photo! Congratulations to you both. I don't know where you plan to get married but we are tying the knot at MONA next week. A special place indeed.

anncaddey | September 6, 2013 at 05:24 pm


Linda Riseley | September 6, 2013 at 05:28 pm

Congratulations :)

simon mordant | September 6, 2013 at 05:11 pm

huge congrats to you both

Barb | September 7, 2013 at 04:22 pm

Congratulations David and Kirsha! I know a good Celebrant if you need one!

David | September 28, 2013 at 03:53 pm

:D;)This is to love. Soooooooooooooooooo good!Hooray

Molly and Aari | December 8, 2013 at 10:14 pm

- Why me?
- That is a very Earthling question to ask, Mr. Pilgrim. Why you? Why us for that matter? Why anything? Because this moment simply is. Have you ever seen bugs trapped in amber?
- Yes.
- Well, here we are, Mr. Pilgrim, trapped in the amber of this moment. There is no why.
Kurt Vonnegut

Enjoying the Amber. Enjoying your words. Congratulations, great to meet you.... Molly and Aari